I get a lot of emails on a daily basis and since I respond to every one I notice themes that develop.

Lately many of these emails have been inquiring about how to take it to the next level with a girl. It seems like a lot of people are confused about how to build a relationship with a girl that they actually like.

The following are 5 tips I use in every relationship I get into. Understand that when I say relationship it doesn’t necessarily mean a monogamous one either. Any time you consistently see a person you are in a form of a relationship so keep that in mind and follow these 5 tips.

1)Convey your expectations to one another from the get go.

If you are not up front and tell the other person what you want you will NEVER get it. We assume that people read our minds, actions or thoughts when we start to hang out but the truth is no one can ever know what you are thinking, it is your responsibility to convey that. If you don’t, you are setting up for a major issue.

2) Be Honest and Up Front about EVERYTHING (Even if you are afraid you are going to lose her it is MUCH better to lose her before deeper feelings begin rather than her finding out you lied and break both your hearts.) Feelings deepen as more time is spent with each other. You have to be honest with everything.

3)Learn to communicate.

A friend once said to me that true communication consisted of US, ME or YOU. He is right on the money with this statement and is the sub context of any actually communication.

4) Shut off the Game don’t shut of the Charm.

People will lose site that in this phase of the relationship and forget that relationships are MANAGED NOT CURED. Just because you are in a relationship doesn’t mean you have an excuse to let yourself go and be a lazy slob. You won her over with your charm, since of adventure and wit, don’t change that.

5) Don’t shut off your social skills.

Be social, go out, make more friends and have a life that is not just her but both of you having a life together. One of the quickest ways to kill your relationship is to shut down and not go out ever but often times that is exactly that people do. When you alienate your friends you do your relationship, your friendships and yourself a disservice.

I hope you got some value out of this post. As always I try to be very active in the Seddit Community so feel free to PM or Email me anytime. Mayson@nsscoaching.com

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